Tuesday, April 21, 2015

Voices In The Other Room


I pressed the side of my head firmly against the door, listening to the voices inside the other room.

For a moment, I felt like a kid again; the curiosity, the allure of doing something you're not supposed to, and the risk of getting caught seemed all too familiar.

I could easily tell that there were a few of them in there and a rather heated discussion was taking place, with one or two of them dominating the conversation.

"You don't get it! He's not gonna make it....there's something he clearly does not get. He's put himself in such a bad position" - yelled one. 
Another chipped in, "Well, he's just being ungrateful. Why would anyone give up the stability of a job and a paycheck for something that's uncertain?". 
"I think he should just stop this senseless idealism and get back to the grind. Life's not a bed of roses. The job market is extremely tight right now...", said the other. 
"And what's with all this financial freedom rubbish? He's not even close, to begin with.", said the last one in a condescending undertone.

It didn't take long for me to discover that those comments were about me. But the hardest part of it all is to finally realize that those voices were from me.

Yes, there were no 'voices in the other room' but merely voices in my own head.

*****

Sometimes, we all have have these naysayers living in our heads. These are the same voices - the ones that say you can't pay off your debts, that your efforts are in vain, that you can't achieve your goals...heck, there's nothing worth listening to in that room.

It is, however, our choice to keep pressing our ears firmly against that door and get defeated by listening to the ongoing barrage of negativity, or simply; walk away from it.

Keep them in the other room - where they belong.

But here's something we can do. 

Why not listen to the room next door? 

The one where voices reassure you that you're making the right decision. In there, they speak of a brighter future, an adventure that's worth striving for...they tell you that you CAN achieve what you're after...

I know that this room can be harder to find.

But trust me, it's there. It has always been there, it's just harder to find because voices in this room are muted.

Unlike the other room, voices in this room speak not in tones of anger but of calm composure.

You have to make a conscious choice to find it.


*****


"You know that little voice in the back of your mind, telling you to stop? Well, you can train that little voice. I taught mine to shut up." - anon




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6 comments:

  1. I was reading the first part of your post thinking, "oh man, is it his family that is being totally unsupportive?!" --- then I read through the rest of it and realized how much this resonates with me. I'm a chronic worrier so it might be harder for me to find the calm, composed voices but I'll find them! Thanks for such a fun read.

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    1. Haha, you were almost right! but nah, I do have a supportive family. But of course, everyone has their own opinions which can cripple my decision-making process. I'm slowly learning to make decisions based on my own assessment of the situation.

      At the end of the day, I do not want to be always looking back and thinking "if only I did it my way".

      "All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it's impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer" - Niccolo Machiavelli

      Worry no more Anum, you'll find the good voices if you keep seeking them.

      Cheers,
      Josh

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  2. Ignore the voices in the other room and let the voices from the room next door to lead the way.

    Nice post!

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    1. And that means ignoring the office time keeper too...there's no space in our heads for disturbances.

      Purge them out,
      Josh

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  3. LOL I think my wife is more of the worrier. I'm more of like the Jamaicans. Irie! Or Don't worry, be happy!

    10 years from now we will look at all of these worries as cute. It's always such a big deal in the moment, but it's hard to focus on the long haul. You're and I are doing that and it's not the norm. Just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean it's the right thing!

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    1. Haha, I'm training myself to join the "don't worry, be happy" club! I'll let you know once my membership is approved.

      Yeah, I think that's true too, looking back at the worries i had 10 years ago....man, I'd smack that kid in the head. Thanks for putting things into perspective.

      Cheers,
      Josh

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